Hi! I'm Your Vagina
The goal here is to create a foundation for a general “How To” with learning your body, specifically your vagina. How do one skillfully accomplish this? By utilizing elementary school basics; the five senses. I want to encourage you to explore yourself using your five senses. Depending on the era in which you were raised, this may be mentally difficult for you to achieve because you were taught the exact opposite of this. But I’m here to empower you. This is your body and it’s ok to take control of it. Let’s get started.
See: We look at our bodies everyday but how often do we explore it? Here’s what I want you to do, after you undress, sit in front of a mirror or grab a handheld mirror and place it in front of you. Stare. Admire. We may not like what we see but we must learn to fully appreciate what we have and use that. Then we can work toward what it is we desire. So, for about 3-5 minutes, I just want you to look at yourself. Move things around; lift your breast, spread your labia majora and minora (Vaginal lips both outer and inner), turn around and look at your back, butt, etc. Explore with your eyes.
Feel: There are multiple parts to the female genitalia, some you can see and some you cannot. And one, the clitoris, you can only see part of. Simply put, close your eyes and feel around. Touch different areas to find out what you like and don’t like. Find out what you love. Touch sensually. You want to be able to make yourself feel as great as your mate can make you feel. The goal is not to replace them but to be able to learn your body by teaching yourself. Take as long as you like to do the exercise but no less than three minutes.
Smell: Ladies please get out of your head that you suppose to smell like fruit or flowers. That is NOT natural. As stated before, we naturally have a musk (not musty) and that’s a great thing. Do you know your scent? Can you detect if your pH is imbalanced just by the smell? I want you to know how she, your vagina, is doing by smell alone. Depending on your diet, activity, maintenance, this scent can be altered. Learn all these. By inserting a finger or two*, smell yourself after a shower, sex, exercising, or even if you change your diet, smell then too. We are literally what we eat. Our scent is a mixture between what our bodies metabolizes and the bacteria that the vaginal metabolizes. So, a good diet and water always helps. Learning this tactic can be quite beneficial because if you are involved in an intimate relationship, you can know what’s going on before your mate and correct it.
Hear: You saying listen to her? What?! I know how crazy that seems, but we have a sound too. So, listen to her. She talks. She moistens. Establishing a connection with her will benefit you both immediately and in the long run. Think about it, when we are not mentally into whatever sexual act we’re engaging in, are we really as moist as we can be? No. Not consistently. So, the cliché here is listen to your body. A lot of women experience queefing (vaginal farts) and become disturbed by this, don’t. It’s a natural function your vagina is performing.
Taste: She is not going there. Oh yes, I am! You must try it at least once in your life. It’s almost a necessity to do so. It’s actually great protein. Comparable to the same protein men gives us when we perform fellatio or even the protein that’s found in our saliva. Your diet and hygiene will dictate this taste. Again, for the most unsaturated result, use your finger. Generally, the vagina should stay around 3.5 on the pH scale. This creates the best environment for good and bad bacteria to coexist. Good bacteria thrive in this acidic environment. Now I know you are not walking around with a pH scale (unless you buy an at-home kit from a drug store) so one of the many ways to also test your balance is through taste. The acidity that is present in the vagina should yield at the most, a SLIGHT tang not tart.
*I’m suggesting fingers instead of a foreign object because that too can cause a shift in balance and I would like for you to get as unfiltered of a scent as possible.
